What is friendship? Is it just people to be with? Or is something more? I've always had differences from everyone else. I can remember when I could count how many friends I had on one hand. Given, I had other "friends" but not the people that I truly consider friends. According to www.merriam-webster.com, a friend is one attatched to another by affection or esteem. I find that definition to be so vague and indescript. A true friend cannot be explained in a simple sentence or definition; because a friend and their meaning vary person to person. A friend to one person may be the exact opposite to another. What fascinates me is the affect of friends on an individual. In my opinion, a person is not just there, they don't simply exist and grow on their own. An individual is created by those around them, they use the actions of others to build their character. A real friend is family; they protect you and provide safety when you need it most. A lack of blood similarity doesn't stop brotherly/sisterly love.
Until this year, I haven't had true friends. I mean, one or two here or there of course, but never the same as i have now. After involving myself fully in the theatre/music/art world, I have found somewhere that I can call a home. I feel like home is not necessarily a house, I feel that is just commonly thought of as synonomous. Instead I believe a home is somewhere safe, a haven where anything can be shared and everything feels right. My family, my parents and brother, have always been there, always. And they always will be. I am ever grateful for everything I've recieved from having the most wonderful family in the world. However, I feel there is a place for everything; by that I mean some things that occur, that are shared with the family are completely different from those with friends. I know there are certain things I would not want to discuss with my family, however those things would literally make everything right if talked about with friends. Friends are family to me. TRUE friends, which are rare and few but always there. Always. They are the people that create you and me. They get us through the hard times and they go through them with us. And those who don't, are weeded out slowly until only 'they' are left. They being those who us. Those who ARE us. I mean, if they create us, aren't they a part of us. It's a mysterious thing. People grow together; a common cliche phrase which is so unbelievably evident looking at people. When two people talk simultaneously and freak each other out, it's proven. People become one another in a sense. They create each other and in the process create themselves using the same thoughts and ideals. Phenomenons such as this are indescribable and irrational. And yet, wonderful things to experience.
A life without friends is hardly a life. How could we live without people taking a ride along with us. After all, "success is not the same alone".
"Walk you Home" by Karmina
Slow down, what's on your mind?
It's alright, I'm on your side.
I hate to see your injury, I wish that you could transfer all
Your pain to me.
Stay here, it's ok to cry.
Let me help you make it right.
Lets turn on a radio, let the bands remind you that you're not
Alone.
We all get low.
Even the brave may depend on someone.
The moon only shines with the help of the sun.
It's not as safe when you're walking alone.
I'll walk you home.
Sun's out, but it feels like rain.
So I will, illuminate your day.
I'm afraid I'm losing it, what's it gonna take for me to get
through this?
Even the brave may depend on someone,
The moon only shines with the help of the sun.
It's not as safe when you're walking alone.
I'll walk you home.
Need the band to play the song.
Someone's hand to keep you strong.
It's harder when you're on your own.
Success is not the same alone.
Can't have up without the down.
Need the straight to have the round.
I'll provide the harmony,
Your song is best accompanied.
Even the brave may depend on someone,
the moon only shines with the help of the sun.
It's not as safe when you're walking alone.
I'll walk you home.
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Friday, March 26, 2010
The Drive of Humans
Human nature is so fascinating. Why do we love to compete with one another? What makes us so driven to win and beat our peers? Throughout the last few weeks, I have noticed and thought about the amount of competition, both healthy and hurtfull, going on around me. I find the ugly side of human nature comes out much more than it should when competition occurs. Not only do I see this in sports, arts, etc. but in simple everyday life; everyone feels they need to be better than everyone else. I personally don't like competing very much. I don't like proving I'm better than everyone else because everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses.
I know my view on competing is extremely obsqure; I say that because I am VERY competetive, and yet, I really don't like competing. And to put these thoughts into words is very difficult. I just feel like there is so much unecessary competition accompanied by necessary competition. Clearly, the real world of jobs if full of requisite competition. But looking at the little things such as grades in school; students focus too much on comparing with one another, they forget to look at realizing and knowing their strengths and working to improve weaknesses. I am being quite hypocritical here in the sense that I compare myself to others so much, I forget to realize there are good things about me. However, I see it in others, and realize that it is both helpful and hurtful. It is helpful because having others who are better than you at something pushes you and helps you grow in that area. But when people beat themselves up by comparing themselves to others is extremely degenerating to one's energy and happiness.
Personally, I like performing and creating for others pleasure than competing. I feel that I am not accomplishing anything when I am just putting other people down whereas I am only entertaining and pleasing others when I am performing or creating something. For example, in my auditioning for the spring musical, I find the cutthroat nature of competetors stands out. People are touchy, sensitive, rude, and obnoxious. I think auditions should smply be a learning experience, not a bloodbath competition. But in the end, the musical is made to entertain, so why make the process so hurtful? People should worry less about others and more about self-improvements to be made from criticism or rejection. Not to say someone shouldn't be upset, but to take it out on others seems unfair and unecessary.
I know my view on competing is extremely obsqure; I say that because I am VERY competetive, and yet, I really don't like competing. And to put these thoughts into words is very difficult. I just feel like there is so much unecessary competition accompanied by necessary competition. Clearly, the real world of jobs if full of requisite competition. But looking at the little things such as grades in school; students focus too much on comparing with one another, they forget to look at realizing and knowing their strengths and working to improve weaknesses. I am being quite hypocritical here in the sense that I compare myself to others so much, I forget to realize there are good things about me. However, I see it in others, and realize that it is both helpful and hurtful. It is helpful because having others who are better than you at something pushes you and helps you grow in that area. But when people beat themselves up by comparing themselves to others is extremely degenerating to one's energy and happiness.
Personally, I like performing and creating for others pleasure than competing. I feel that I am not accomplishing anything when I am just putting other people down whereas I am only entertaining and pleasing others when I am performing or creating something. For example, in my auditioning for the spring musical, I find the cutthroat nature of competetors stands out. People are touchy, sensitive, rude, and obnoxious. I think auditions should smply be a learning experience, not a bloodbath competition. But in the end, the musical is made to entertain, so why make the process so hurtful? People should worry less about others and more about self-improvements to be made from criticism or rejection. Not to say someone shouldn't be upset, but to take it out on others seems unfair and unecessary.
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Negativity
Something I've really noticed lately is the amount of criticism I see within people. As I walk around and talk to people, I hear so much negative gossip and so many harsh comments toward other people. I mean, drama is somewhat a "given" in high school but, why? Why do people need to tear down other people? Why is negativity such a huge part of American life? I believe this issue is one with no definate solution, but it's certainly been circling my mind frequently.
Not to say I don't say negative things ever, or that I don't gossip, because I do. And each time somehing of the sort comes out of my mouth, it inspires me to change my actions. However, I know I am very capable of staying out of negative situations, conversation, and the like, and I apply that to my every day life as it is one of my focus points in improving myself as a person. To see others complain about such nonsensical drama is quite silly to me because of how I find it so easy to steer clear of it. It is such a seemingly simple concept: not gossip, be positie, and be nice to everyone. Well, why can't we avoid it as a society? I think people secretly like drama; they feed on it to keep them in the center of attention. Which is why the most attention hungry people are generally the most dramatic. People love to complain and draw attention to themselves. Again, drama frequently depends based on personality types. A very quiet, intraverted indivual has seemingly less drama; not to say they never have drama but it is certainly not the same as an attention hog. Because really, for many, negative attention is better than no attention. Which is really sad if you think about it: people's lives often revolve around negativity and how negativity seems to outweigh positivity. I don't completely understand it and i don't think I ever will.
I feel like changing this is a completely indivudually based issue. Changing this universally is virtually impossible. However, actions tend to be like diseases: they spread. Happiness is contagious; if one person starts a positive new life, others will follow. It's a chain affect of positivity, forever helping those around.
Not to say I don't say negative things ever, or that I don't gossip, because I do. And each time somehing of the sort comes out of my mouth, it inspires me to change my actions. However, I know I am very capable of staying out of negative situations, conversation, and the like, and I apply that to my every day life as it is one of my focus points in improving myself as a person. To see others complain about such nonsensical drama is quite silly to me because of how I find it so easy to steer clear of it. It is such a seemingly simple concept: not gossip, be positie, and be nice to everyone. Well, why can't we avoid it as a society? I think people secretly like drama; they feed on it to keep them in the center of attention. Which is why the most attention hungry people are generally the most dramatic. People love to complain and draw attention to themselves. Again, drama frequently depends based on personality types. A very quiet, intraverted indivual has seemingly less drama; not to say they never have drama but it is certainly not the same as an attention hog. Because really, for many, negative attention is better than no attention. Which is really sad if you think about it: people's lives often revolve around negativity and how negativity seems to outweigh positivity. I don't completely understand it and i don't think I ever will.
I feel like changing this is a completely indivudually based issue. Changing this universally is virtually impossible. However, actions tend to be like diseases: they spread. Happiness is contagious; if one person starts a positive new life, others will follow. It's a chain affect of positivity, forever helping those around.
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